Well, it is that time of year again, time for the dreaded resolutions!  Somehow with the start of the new year reminds us that we can start new again as well, when in actuality, we can start over every day and not have to wait for the new year to roll around. Although the new year reminds us to take a look at our lives and take stock of what is working and what isn’t. It helps us to realize how grateful we should be for all of the wonderful things that ARE working in our lives or the blessings we have been given. It also gives us a chance to evaluate what isn’t working and to search for ways to make changes for those things to work better.

The key to making those changes is to:

1. be open minded about other possible ways of doing things. If you shoot down every idea before you even get a chance to develop it, most likely you won’t be able to find a good solution to your problem.

2. Don’t be judgmental with yourself about how you got into whatever mess you are in. Chalk it up to life experience and focus on how you can fix it and make things better.

3. Be willing to take a risk to try something new. Often times our fears are what prevents us from doing what we need to do in the first place. Typically the hardest thing to do is the right thing to do, so get brave and push forward!

4. Never stop evaluating and looking for new alternatives. You never know what will come up or what new idea will pop in your head that will be exactly what you are looking for.

Good Luck and Happy New Year!
Carol Agnew, MA, LMFT
Online COunselor
http://www.asktheinternettherapist.com/online_counselor_ag.asp

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