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 Are there things you are afraid to talk about? Afraid to put into words because they might become more real?
Are you ok most of the time, but then you have flashes of feelings you can't push away?
Do you sometimes want to face it but you don't know how? Well meaning family and friends try but aren't able to help, leaving you feeling guilty and alone because you can't explain it to them. Are you tired of feeling that you are letting them and yourself down?
Some things require expert advice.
Would you like to learn how to think about it only when you choose to think about it? Would you like to be able to separate from the pain anytime? To know that you can always return to the safety of HERE & NOW
Try the HERE & NOW Plan. After twenty years of trying everything and learning what works, I developed the HERE & NOW Plan to help people to Get Out Of the Pain.
Don't wait. Not even one more day. Let a counselor with a specialty help you to Get Out of the Pain. I teach the skills, support your learning, and offer practice sessions by email or chat. I would love to hear your story. Don't let distance stop you.
Do you find that nothing makes a job easier than the right tools?
I share the tools. I provide the information. You decide what to do with it. Let's work it out together.
Stress can be managed. Anger can be lessened. Children can behave better. Relationships can be fun again. Trauma can be resolved. Healing can happen. Distance counseling can help. Get Out Of The Pain. I have years of experience and training to put to work for you. Don't wait another day.
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Areas of Specialty
TEACHING THE PLAN
SKILL BUILDING SESSIONS
I offer thirty- or sixty-minute skills building sessions if you are learning how to Get Out Of The Pain and into The HERE & NOW.
You can learn The HERE & NOW Plan on line by Chat or Email.
I teach you how to stay in the present so that you can focus on the things that matter to you today. After twenty years of trying everything and learning what works, I created The HERE & NOW Plan - seven simple steps you can take to separate from the pain of the past and get back to The HERE & NOW!
Please don't go another day without getting the help you deserve from someone who knows how to help. Whether it happened two days ago or twenty years ago. Let's work it out together. I would love to hear your story. By email, chat or phone. Take that step today.
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SUPPORTING THE PLAN
Is simple the same thing as easy?
Unfortunately not! Some of the simple things, like "Just don't yell! Stop and count to ten.", are not always easy. So I support, explain, encourage, motivate and coach people who want to learn the skills and need help with the motivation.
I often tell people, "If I could do the practicing for you I would! If I could practice it a thousand times and implant it in your mind already learned as habit, I would. We both know that I can't. No matter how much I would want to do that for you, I can't."
What I can do is practice it with you, support and coach and remind you with multiple, short, thirty-minute scheduled chat sessions or email sessions over a few weeks or months until you see enough results that you have the motivation to practice it on your own. I offer practice sessions and refresher sessions.
I love teaching the plan and I love seeing it work. I would love to work with you to see that happen for you.
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A NOTE ABOUT DISTACE COUNSELING FOR SURVIVORS OF ABUSE.
For you, distance counseling can be the bridge that you have been looking for. For you, going into a room alone with anyone for the first time or for the tenth time, can be a trigger that brings you back to the pain, the fear, the guilt, and the shame. No wonder you have not made an appointment for face-to-face counseling!
Those are good reasons for you to have avoided face-to-face counseling. They make sense: you are keeping yourself safer by avoiding it, without even knowing why. You are a survivor!
For you, email or chat counseling can bring you to the "office" of an expert without having to first overcome that fear. You can bridge that gap!
If you have a history of abuse but have stopped yourself from getting the help of a counselor, consider Chat or Email counseling.
Keep the safety of distance and get the help of an expert.
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TELLING YOUR STORY
If it is time, if you are ready, once you have mastered the HERE & NOW Plan, you decide with pride if you have made enough progress for now and are done with counseling, or if you want to move forward in telling your story. For more permanent pain relief, from a place of safety, you can decide with pride to look back, or not, at the pain or trauma, knowing that you can get back to the HERE & NOW and Get Out Of The Pain at will, anytime because you have the skills.
Trauma sensitive counseling focuses first on The HERE & NOW. Once you can Get Out Of The Pain at will, then you can choose whether or not to look back at the cause.
Past pain and early traumas can lead to sudden desperation, relationship problems, and substance abuse without warning at different times in adult lives. Both seemingly happy and newly painful events can trigger these problems: weddings, graduations, funerals, the birth of children, children reach the age that you had been when the pain started, separation and divorce.
The determination of pain and trauma survivors to overcome their pain and trauma can be awe inspiring. The stories I have heard and the people I have helped to separate from the pain inspire me to want to hear your story and to help you learn to separate from the pain. Do this for yourself. Don't put it off another day.
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JUST THE SKILLS
Can I learn just the HERE & NOW Plan and not move on to telling my story?
ABSOLUTELY!! BRAVO TO YOU WHO KNOW YOU ARE NOT YET READY!
The idea that you first learn how to be safe emotionally before moving on has been recommended for years. The difficult part was often holding people back from telling their story until they knew how to Get Out Of The Pain and to stay at a safe emotional distance in the HERE & NOW. I would not recommend moving forward to telling your story until you know that you are ready. When you are ready you will know. If you are not yet sure, I can help you to figure it out.
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I DON'T WANT TO EVER LOOK BACK
Do you want to leave the past in the past? I offer insight and self-awareness sessions for those who know how to Get Out Of The Pain but are not sure that they are ready to or will ever by ready to look back. We focus on honoring, valuing, loving, and cherishing yourself just as much whether you choose to say "I've done enough for now" or you choose to say, "I'm ready to take another step." Just as much!
You have learned safety! Overcome pain! Honored and validated your experience! Cherished your survival! Be proud of that! Honor and value and cherish yourself for that. You may choose to never look back and be just as proud, and honor and value and cherish yourself just as much! Let's figure it out together.
I can help you to look at the specific benefits for you of not looking back and of looking back and at the timing at this moment in your life. There are some known benefits, if you are ready. My goal would be for you to decide with pride and find peace in your choice. Schedule a 60 minute chat session and we can work together to help you to decide with pride.
To help you to decide, you may want to read “Their Stories”. You can see the summaries below. Visit my website at www.GetOutOfThePain.com - and click “Their Stories” to read more.
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THEIR STORIES
Do these stories seem familiar to you? Jenna, Carl, Terry, Jesse, and Corey are not their real names. Other details have also been changed. If their stories sound familiar to you, if you have that kind of emotional pain, please know that there are ways to Get Out Of The Pain. Helping people to tell stories like these and seeing them learn to Get Out Of The Pain is what I love to do.
Jenna's Story - Learned Helplessness leads to Hopelessness: Jenna had watched helplessly growing up as her father drifted further from them. More often, for more days at a time he would sit in his study, lost in the past, his only company for days at a time had been bottles of vodka. She had wondered why she had not been able to make him happy...
Carl's Story - Isolation and Shame: Carl had never been sure which part was worse. Was it hiding on the attic steps with his twin sister covering their ears so they did not hear the arguing? Or watching their father walk out the door and never return. Carl had known that if he had just not broken that plate that day, his father would never have left...
Terry's Story - PTSD and Substance Abuse: Terry left much pain behind when he went to college on a partial scholarship half way across the country. He never looked back, except to try and get his brother Jason to join him. Jason had stayed, trying to fix the unfixable family until the day that Jason gave up, tragically, by killing himself...
Jessi's Story - Feeling Flashbacks: Jessi remembered the terrible feeling. Anytime anyone became upset, loud, scared or angry, instantly Jessi was three years old again. Sometimes Jessi saw flashes of the nursery, most of the time Jessi just remembered the feelings. Her brother had died of crib death...
Corey's Story: Sexual Abuse. Corey had always been a tower or strength, until she had held her newborn child in her arms and began to wonder secretly, "Why hadn't I been this worthy of protection?" It was then that Corey had started to have trouble getting out of the pain. It should have been a beautiful time in her life, but the flashes of shame and doubt had begun...
I wanted to hear their stories because I wanted to help them to get out of the pain. I would love to hear your story too.
If you have already learned to get out of the pain and stay out, and are ready, I would love to help you to look back from a safe distance so you can heal! Please don't wait another day.
ABOUT ME...
I maintain a state license as a mental health counselor, and a state certification as a master's level addictions counselor. I maintain a national certification as a master's level counselor as well.
Please visit my website to learn more about me and about my practice at www.TheCounselorIsIn.com - "Helping People Move Forward".I look forward to working with you.
Do keep yourself well and let me know how else I can help you to move forward. Jeanine |
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