Love breakups and how to overcome them.

Love breakups and how to overcome them.

Posted by Jef Gazley, M.S., LMFT, DCC on Nov 21st 2022

Are you in the middle of a breakup? It doesn't matter who ended the relationship, it doesn't matter if you had been with your ex for a few months or if it was a relationship of many years. Breakups hurt, no matter what.

The bad news is that it is inevitable to go through phases of loneliness, pain, stress, sadness? In addition, breakups, if they end badly, create a feeling of uncertainty that is not pleasant.

Sometimes you will feel for a long time as if you have unresolved issues with that person, we become emotionally attached to our loved ones and detachment can be a long and often painful process.

To overcome it you need to follow certain steps:

Allow yourself to feel the pain of the breakup , get all your emotions out and be kind to yourself, you will feel like you are on a roller coaster.

Accept that perhaps part of this pain will be physical, when we are in stressful situations, cortisol and adrenaline increase drastically, a situation that leads us to suffer insomnia, headaches, muscle stiffness, among others.

Take some time to distance yourself, to avoid relapses, you need to be at peace with the situation and have overcome your grief to see him/her again without reengaging.

Recognize what is your part of responsibility in this breakup and what is his part. Only from there will you be able to move forward and reflect on what attitudes or behaviors you do not want to repeat in order to build a healthier relationship in the future.

Finally, remember that you don't have to deal with this alone, we are here to support you and make you feel supported in the process. 

We are coping together!