The following was listed as a comment and I wanted to follow up to it.
I have been with a wonderful man for 1 1/2 years. He just recently has told me that he wants to date other woman and that I was just an infatuation. All this has taken place since I moved in with him 8 months ago. We starting growing apart right from the beginning, and now it is like we are strangers. Is there anything I can do to bring him back to me. I love him and know he is what I need and want in my life. Please help me understand.
It is interesting that things started falling apart when you moved in together. It is the same problem married people have. The novelty and excitement seems to disappear when you are with eachother so much. You think that by moving in together you would be increasing your romance, but in fact, the opposite happens. It happens because now that you have access to each other, you aren’t as desired by the other. The idea of the “hunt” or the “chase” is gone, so you have to find other ways to make things exciting.
One way to do that is to find ways to “play” together. Studies have shown that couples who actively play together, whether it is a sport outside or at the gym or just having tickle time in the bedroom, are happier and stay together longer. So make an effort to add playful time to your daily routine.
Love notes and phone calls just to say “I love you” also are a big way to keep the flame going.
In this particular case, i think you need to have a serious heart to heart conversation with him about what he isn’t liking anymore and what is exciting about the new girl. Could be that he just likes the thrill of the chase and if that is the case, he isn’t emotionally ready to settle down with you and your best bet is to move on and learn from this experience. There are lots of men out there, even if it doesn’t seem like it.
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